Help! He Thinks I’m Fat

Their marriage started off with her being a size 2. Two years later when their first child was born she was a size 14. Another two years later she blew up to a size 18. Rather than visiting the gym and losing the weight she gained during her pregnancy she fell into what most know as post partum depression. Instead of leaving his overweight and depressed wife, her husband continued to love her. Her body size from a size 2 to a size 18 was quite the shock to him and did not help in rocking their love life in the bedroom. Most of all, however, she felt least attractive to herself. By this time, however, she had given up caring.

Perhaps you can relate?

There seems to be little women can do when they are fighting a depression in addition to feeling imprisoned in a body they don’t want to be in. In fact, the slip-on shoes we resort to during our late stages in pregnancy now have become our favorite shoes, even long after the pregnancy is over.

By this time the excuses of caring for a small child keep you away from the gym, for good seeming reason. So you resort to diets and starving yourself - the weight has to come off somehow, even though we know that 95% of all diets fail. So we fall deeper and deeper into the hole of depression and the mountain of excuses soon seems to swallow us alive.

So there is no time for the gym, diets don’t work, perhaps you should leave the marriage? But what would happen if you did?

You realize that life would go on - with you being happy or unhappy - it goes on.

Rather than leaving your marriage in the hopes for peace and being left alone, here are 5 steps you can take that can assist you in regaining great health and igniting that new flame into your relationship:

1. Stop the excuses as to why you are not losing the weight. Instead, find positive reasons why you want to regain your sexy figure. You’ve been there before, you’ll get there again. There is no need to worry about losing all the weight by next week, just start somewhere and be consistent.

2. Do it for you. Instead of wanting to lose weight for “him,” realize that losing weight and feeling good about yourself is all about you. If you’re in a relationship then yes, you’re going through this together, but losing the weight for him may be too superficial of a reason and the results may only be temporary. Desire to lose the weight and get back in shape for you and only you. Remember that it is you who is feeling the lack of health, you feel unattractive and you want to start feeling better about yourself. Your lover feeling attracted to you is a bonus, cream on the crop so to speak, but the main reason for you to get back in shape needs to be for you.

3. No reasons for pouting. There is no reason for you to put your hands on your hips and demanding from him to love you no matter your size. If he truly loves you I can assure you that he loves you no matter what, however, I can also assure you that men by nature are stimulated visually (and they are just as much turned off by visuals). No matter how much you try to bend Nature’s rules, in the end you only hurt yourself by making unrealistic demands of your partner. Instead, learn to work with nature and ask Life to help you create a perfectly healthy and sexy body once again.